Refresh Workshop

An afternoon of Self Care

Hosted by Posh Petals

Elizabeth, Elyse and Abbie lead the way helping each guest create these beautiful, one of a kind living hair pieces.

Photos by Jennie King

Photos by Jennie King

These gals came to be inspired. It’s easy to see the beauty of life moving through seasons. But it isn’t always so simple when we see those patterns occurring in our own lives. Maybe now is not your springtime, but there’s so much beauty in believing that it’s just on the other side. Trust the Winter. Shed your skin. Breathe that air.

Photos by Jennie King

Photos by Jennie King

Amber Kilpatrick from Mindful Vinyasa School of Yogaguided us through a flow to feed our souls.

Photos by Jennie King

Photos by Jennie King

Photo by Jennie King

Photo by Jennie King

We were thrilled to bring our talents to these deserving ladies alongside a few other fabulous #Bossbabes. Natasha from The Emporium Salon
gave these nails a fabulous makeover with her completely non toxic beauty products.

Photos by Jennie King

Photos by Jennie King

Brittney Von Erck of Sacred Circle Healing opened our hearts and minds to life's beautiful possibilities. 


Eat More Cake

It's a West Michigan Movement...

{Shout out to Justin of 616 Media for this amazing video!}

The studio was decked out to be the stuff of dreams; soft whites, feathers, dewy lights, gorgeous and powerful women waltzing around getting to know each other and talking about all of the most important issues! What more could you want besides pastries, cocktails, and good conversation? 

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The diversity in the studio was magical; women of all different backgrounds, sizes, ages, and personalities were able to connect through the shared experience of being a woman in today's culture.  

I spoke with Pasha Shipp, a journalist for Grand Rapids Magazine, and she expressed how excited she was to get involved with more community events, particularly ones for women, such as Eat More Cake! Already involved with Lean In Circles (a program for women to support each other with their professional goals), Pasha is passionate about hearing other women's stories.

"We all have the same Struggles."
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"As women, we need to do a better job of encouraging each other and being able to express ourselves." - Amber Janielle

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One panelist, Francie VanHoven is involved with the Grand Rapids Feminist Film Festival as well as the Bandit Zine, a social-justice zine, and she was most excited to talk about her recent wedding experience and coming to terms with the idea that "it's okay [to be] a fat bride."

"I'm pretty like me; she's pretty like her." 

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There were plenty of new faces at this year's event including Leah Rapaport, who runs Gather-GR, a series of events for women around Grand Rapids. "Women supporting women, inspired by you." For Leah (and all women), female empowerment is always relevant. 

Several panelists were newbies to the event as well, like Heather Duffy, an artist and curator, who feels that any event that's about empowering women is important. 

"The more events like this the better. It's going to take a lot of repeated affirmation for body positivity to take hold because of how long we've viewed ourselves negatively."
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"We have to support each other and keep reminding each other of how astounding we are." - Stevie Parcell

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THANK YOU to our amazing Panel.

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How To: Follow Through on Your New Year's Resolutions

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If you're anything like me, you may be thinking what resolutions? I don't know what you're talking about... But I'm here to tell you that it's not over yet! Just because you may have fallen off the resolution wagon doesn't mean that you should give up on them all together, my dear! 

It's easy to go a week or two without doing any active work on all those goals and changes you decided to make this year, and it's also completely okay to take a little break. BUT a break is not forever, and sooner or later, you'll have to get back into things.

Check out the tips below to help with committing to all of your new year, new me goals!  

1. The Buddy System

There's a couple of different ways that resolutions with a partner can work--both of which operate on the idea that you are not the only person to hold yourself accountable. 

Maybe you and your best friend are trying to hit the gym a few times a week together, or quit biting your nails, or perhaps having more family meals at the kitchen table. If you and your pal have the same resolution, you can help to remind and encourage each other, and you can actually engage in the activities together. Everything is more fun with a few friends!

An alternative solution involves mutual moral support for different goals. You and your friend/sibling/partner create a supportive alliance so that you can nag her about swearing less and she can slap your hand away from your biting mouth. What fun!

2. Baby Steps 

Making a big change in your habits is difficult, and many resolutions require a lifestyle shift. Whether you're trying to eat-in more, spend more time with family, or learn French, you're going to have to change your current habits to be successful with your new ones.  

Making changes is hard, so even if your resolution is a much bigger shift, start with something small that you can change every single day. Maybe you're going to make your bed, or set out your clothing the night before, or do your dishes immediately after you use them. Whatever you choose--make it manageable. 

Over time, add more small changes to your day-to-day task list, and watch your entire lifestyle transition. As you're making little changes, start focusing on the big one(s) too!

3. Write it Down 

There are loads of small things you can do to encourage yourself every day, and communicating with yourself is a great way to start! My three preferred methods of self-communication are reminder notes, journal entries, and my planner. 

  • Make a few sticky-notes with important tasks, bits of encouragement, and gentle reminders for around the house. After a while, they'll start to blend in, so rewrite them on different colors and put them in a new place!
  • Write a to-do list for every day or week. Put small things like laundry as well as bigger things like be nice to strangers. Cross things off when they're finished. 
  • Start a journal to keep track of your thoughts and feelings as you live and grow, but don't put too much pressure on it. It's okay if you don't have time to write every day, or even every week. But writing to yourself is a great introspective tool.
  • Lastly, get a planner, or use your phone to organize your tasks and responsibilities. Physically writing things out has a therapeutic quality for me, but just having all of your plans organized into one place will make you feel much more on top of things.  

4. Don't Quit

As is mentioned at the beginning of this post, it's easy to break our New Year's Resolutions once we take a few days or weeks off. Rather than give up after a period of inactivity, just start fresh. 

The New Year isn't the only time to make a big change--in fact it may not even be the best time for each individual. Revisit your goals every month, and even if you haven't done a thing towards them by June--start there! You've still got half a year to change your life!

5. Remember That You're Human

At the end of the day, we must remember not to put too much pressure on ourselves. If your plans for change aren't going as well as you had hoped, that's okay! No one will ever be perfect, and sometimes a monumental change is a little too much to hold on to.

Don't be discouraged by failure; think of failure as a new starting point. If this isn't your year in one way, it's bound to be in another. Look for the changes that you're making without even realizing, and try to encourage those! Grow naturally, and enjoy the struggle a little. Because if change wasn't a bit of a struggle, what would be the point of it all anyway? 

Tell us how your personal growth is coming along! 

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Oh hey #SquadBettie!

Elise here with another HUGE thank you for all the support and excitement surrounding this event.  You asked for more and we listened! Mod Bettie's mission has and always will be,

...to empower women by creating a safe and supportive environment for female self-expression.

And that's exactly what we're doing. Offering a safe space to share your failures and successes, your goals and your game plan. My journey to self acceptance and self love has been a long and messy one but it brought me here, to this place where I can use my tools show women they are confident, beautiful and brave.

We're back and we're bigger and better than ever! Do away with those self-defeating New Years Resolutions and discover 2018 Reasons to Love Yourself MORE! You are cordially invited back again to...

EAT MORE CAKE!

Join us for an evening of cake, cocktails and conversations about Body Positivity, Self-Worth and Girl Power. There will be a panel discussion, vendor tables, pop-up shops, photo booth, vision boarding, small bites and special giveaways.

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Thursday, Jan 18th 6:00 PM – 9:00 PM

Tickets will sell out so snag them below NOW!

Shout out to Justin of 616 Media for this amazing video!

We have some amazing local leading ladies that will share their stories on how self-love can improve your overall health and well being!

THE PANEL

Click on their photo and check out their websites.

is owner and operator of Citizen, a new TIki Bar and restaurant in the Cheshire Village Business District in the Creston neighborhood and she is a long term neighborhood activist, resident, and volunteer in Grand Rapids neighborhoods.

Amber Janielle is a former high school math teacher turned entrepreneur.  She has carried on her love for teaching by educating women on how to embrace and care for their natural hair. With over 50 thousand followers, Instagram has been her number one platform. She's most recently transitioned from a known Natural hair blogger to a stay at home mommy blogger.

is the Founder & CEO of HOAP, Inc. (Helping Our Adolescence Prosper) a grass root non-profit 501c3 organization that was birthed out of the overwhelming need to provide a safe, creative and supportive environment for young males and females and their personal development to overcome life’s negative challenges.

Shannon is the founder and principal of Tough Skin, Soft Heart, a movement designed to affirm, encourage, and inspire leaders as they navigate the emotional strain that accompanies a life committed to being a difference-maker. Tough Skin, Soft Heart has three brand platforms: inspirational writing, motivational speaking, and a portable affirmation product line. “As women, we are fire fighters, fire preventers, and fire starters. I am passionate about the emotional wellness of women in the ‘behind the veil’ spaces of our lives.

After years of helping people feel more beautiful through global brands like Decléor, Estée Lauder, and Lancôme, Femé Naigow opened Apsara to offer the full range of beauty and wellness treatments her clients were asking for in a relaxing and welcoming atmosphere.

Owner and Photographer at Mod Bettie Portrait Boutique, an all female portrait studio on a mission to empower women by creating a safe and supportive environment for female self-expression.

Francie VH Gleason is a size 28 hairstylist, artist, and recent fat bride!

Brainiac. Creative genius. Purveyor of cool. Owner of I Got Face- Cosmetic Concierge and POSH Innovative Event Management. Professional picker for East Meets West Thrift Pop-Up Shop and LIPS.COMB.LUXE.Blogger.

is an artist from the Mississippi Gulf Coast and has lived in Grand Rapids for the last eight years. She currently works in development for WGVU Public Media. She exhibits her studio work regionally and nationally, and holds an MFA in painting from Kendall College of Art and Design.


 


This event wouldn't be possible without the support of some incredible sponsors who equally support and believe in our mission.

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Posh Innovative Event Management

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Mod Bettie Portrait Boutique

Sherlynn James Remax Grand Rapids | Rachael Beldkamp Team

Posh Petals

Amore Trattoria

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We encourage you to arrive picture perfect in a wardrobe that makes you feel sexy and empowered. Tell a friend to tell a friend... to tell a friend... its ANOTHER gathering for the girl bosses and you all are invited! This is your year for a New YOU Resolution that will change how you see yourself forever!

 

Peek at images from our first installment of Let Them Eat Cake!


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New Year, New Events for Ladies!

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Oh ladies, it’s a new year, which means we’re all trying our best to make positive changes and have a little fun as the post-holiday months settle over us. This January is packed with fabulous events for women and girls of all ages around West Michigan, so let’s sprinkle as much girl time into the new year as we can!

Dragons, Unicorns & Mermaids @ The Public Museum, Grand Rapids

1-31 January 2018

This exhibit at The Public Museum in Downtown GR is an awesome family activity for mothers and daughters (and anyone else in the fam who wants to tag along!) The exhibit features both models and replicas of the mystical specimens, in addition to fossils of real prehistoric animals that help explain how some of these otherworldly creatures may have been inspired. This show is running all of January and into the spring months, and it's such a fun way to tie science and fantasy together!

WPBA: Grand Slam Event @ Soaring Eagle Casino, Mt Pleasant  

3-7 January 2018

This tournament is hosted by one of the longest-running women's professional sports organizations in the world--The Women's Professional Billiard Association. If you want to see some awesome women compete in what is often considered a male-dominated sport, stop by Soaring Eagle for this action-packed weekend of billiards and babes doing their thing.

Crazy Ladies Quilting Circle @ Coopersville Farm Museum

4-25 January 2018 (Thursdays)

Maybe you're looking to pick up a new hobby this year, or maybe you're already an avid quilter--either way--join the fun at Coopersville Farm Museum every Thursday of the year! The primary focus may be quilting, but anyone interested in crocheting, sewing, or anything else textile related should come out and get to know the crazy ladies. Don't be intimidated if you don't have any experience; every level of knowledge is welcome to join!

Princess Tea Party @ Henderson Castle Inn, Kalamazoo

14 January 2018 1:00 pm - 3:00 pm

Though we may all have a princess inside us, this event is for the little ones! Your little princess and her friends will have the most perfect make-believe afternoon pretending to be princesses in the historic and extravagant Henderson Castle Inn. The afternoon will include photo opportunities with the princesses, storytelling, ballroom dancing, and a guided tour of the castle. Wait, are grown-ups allowed on this adventure?

Y-102 Bridal Show @ Ferris State University Center, Big Rapids

14 January 2018, 1:00 pm - 4:00 pm

If you or anyone you know is planning her big day in 2018, you can't miss this show. Honestly, even if you're not planning your big day, who doesn't love a little wedding daydreaming? There will be door prizes, cash giveaways, free food and drink, a fashion show (!?), enough said.

Women in Healthcare Leadership Conference @ The Eberhard Center, Grand Rapids

18 January 2018, 3:30 pm - 7:00 pm

This is your year to get motivated and work your booty off! With that being said, what better way to jumpstart that motivation than by surrounding yourself with other hard-working women. The conference will feature two keynote speakers who share their stories (one on healthcare and one on finance) and then lead several hands-on activities to help you engage and connect! The theme of this year is Educate & Empower, and what could be better than that?

Eat More Cake @ Mod Bettie, Grand Rapids

18 January 2018, 6:00 pm - 9:00 pm

A BODY POSITIVITY CAMPAIGN FOR WOMEN! Do away with those self-defeating New Years Resolutions and discover 2018 Reasons to Love Yourself More! Join us for an evening of cake, cocktails and conversations about Body Positivity, Self-Worth and Girl Power. There will be a panel discussion, vendor tables, pop-up shops, photo booth, small bites, vision boarding, and special giveaways. We encourage you to arrive picture perfect in a wardrobe that makes you feel sexy and empowered. Click here to purchase tickets!

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Ultimate Ladies Weekend and Vintage Market @ Kalamazoo County Expo Center

20-21 January 2018 9:00 am - 4:00 pm

Wait you're telling me there's a ladies weekend and a vintage market popping up at the same place on the same weekend?! Count me in! These two events include LuLaRoe and other craft vendors, demonstrations, and giveaways, plus two full rooms packed with antiques, shabby chic, boutique clothing, vintage, home decor, and more! What else are you going to do with all the Christmas money if not spoil yourself with an amazing shopping weekend with the girls?

Let us know if we've missed anything going on this month! 

Don't forget to follow Mod Bettie on Instagram!

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Happy New Year from Mod B

There are so many things I want to say. So many thank you's, so many I love you's and lots of new things on the way for 2018. But this Christmas my heart took a big hit. Some people I loved very much hurt me pretty bad and I'm still reeling from the devastation. So in the spirit of a true Modern Bettie, I offer you transparency. Life is hard, really hard. But you can be harder. Cheers to you babes out there slayin life. Be brave and be beautiful.

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JENNIFER

HAYLEY

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ELISE

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HUGE thank you to Rebecca Gohl for Hair and Makeup and Iconoclasp for the insanely gorgeous gowns.

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Our next Body Positivity and Empowerment Event is January 18th! Get your ticket HERE now!

Thanks for an IG-CREDIBLE 2017

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Mad (Wo)Men in 2017

The women of AMC's Mad Men were hardly supporting roles. They stole the show with their bold, brave, and beautiful personalities. These characters represented the women who rebelled against the times. Out of an era in which women were socially forced to stay in the kitchen looking pretty, these characters busted out of the norm into a man's world and caught everyone's attention. Joan, Betty, Megan, Sally and Peggy ruled with style. But what would these badass babes look like after catching a time machine to 2017?

 

Betty Hofstadt, the queen of ice cold glares and A-line skirts. Her Mad Men style was a really good visual representation of her personality. Her closet was full of new and old, because she just couldn't seem to let go of her youth (both in terms of her closet and her mentality. Remember Glen, anyone?) Betty's 2017 closet would feature the same pastel colors, and similar conservative cuts, but with a little inspiration from contemporary trends like color blocking and ornate florals. We can't blame Betty for having such a classically stuck-up style. She grew up hearing she looks like Grace Kelly, after all.

Betty Hofstadt, the queen of ice cold glares and A-line skirts. Her Mad Men style was a really good visual representation of her personality. Her closet was full of new and old, because she just couldn't seem to let go of her youth (both in terms of her closet and her mentality. Remember Glen, anyone?) Betty's 2017 closet would feature the same pastel colors, and similar conservative cuts, but with a little inspiration from contemporary trends like color blocking and ornate florals. We can't blame Betty for having such a classically stuck-up style. She grew up hearing she looks like Grace Kelly, after all.

Peggy Olson. The strong, creative, and driven copy writer who worked her way up from frumpy secretary to being too damn good for all those the Mad Men men. Peggy's the kind of person who thinks she doesn't have a style, someone who cares too much about her work to worry about her clothes. But even she has to realize how many motifs run through her closet. Peggy was always into layering and tie-neck blouses. Plaids, stripes, and repetitive patterns all worked their way into her conservative work clothes. And by the end of the show her style was refined, hip, and as always, professional. 2017 seems to be Peggy's fashion dream come true. We've got mustard-colored anything. We've got tie-neck blouses for days. We are in the golden time of business casual clothes. Peggy would be the best dressed creative at whatever hip office she'd work at in 2017.

Peggy Olson. The strong, creative, and driven copy writer who worked her way up from frumpy secretary to being too damn good for all those the Mad Men men. Peggy's the kind of person who thinks she doesn't have a style, someone who cares too much about her work to worry about her clothes. But even she has to realize how many motifs run through her closet. Peggy was always into layering and tie-neck blouses. Plaids, stripes, and repetitive patterns all worked their way into her conservative work clothes. And by the end of the show her style was refined, hip, and as always, professional. 2017 seems to be Peggy's fashion dream come true. We've got mustard-colored anything. We've got tie-neck blouses for days. We are in the golden time of business casual clothes. Peggy would be the best dressed creative at whatever hip office she'd work at in 2017.

Sally Draper. Like mother like daughter, Sally just wasn't happy with her age. Always trying to act older, Sally pushed the limits of her wardrobe and actions constantly. Her youthful style tended to push towards the mature side. Like when Daddy Don almost didn't let her out of the house in her Go-Go boots. Today, Sally would have an eclectic closet with a mix of young and mature: classic shift dresses and peter pan collars, trendy skirts and platform shoes, youthful accessories, and an assortment of headbands (obviously.) 2017 Sally is bright, daring, and still just as bratty as her 1960's self.

Sally Draper. Like mother like daughter, Sally just wasn't happy with her age. Always trying to act older, Sally pushed the limits of her wardrobe and actions constantly. Her youthful style tended to push towards the mature side. Like when Daddy Don almost didn't let her out of the house in her Go-Go boots. Today, Sally would have an eclectic closet with a mix of young and mature: classic shift dresses and peter pan collars, trendy skirts and platform shoes, youthful accessories, and an assortment of headbands (obviously.) 2017 Sally is bright, daring, and still just as bratty as her 1960's self.

Joan Halloway. The absolute baddest bitch to ever grace our tv screens. She oozed sex appeal and sass. Even in her conservative dresses she couldn't hide her dominating aura or those voluptuous "hillsides" as Roger would say. Joan covered up in bold business wear, richly colored and with minimal accessories. She wanted to seen as more than a "whole lot of woman" in this man's world. Joan was the backbone of the office, and she scratched her way to the top, with razor sharp claws that always matched her lipstick. In 2017 Joan could be seen in wiggle dresses and a-line pants, powerful silhouettes. She'd still be rocking those bold one-piece outfits, like an off-the-shoulder jumpsuit or a solid fuchsia dress with stylized sleeves. Joan always has, and always will, dress to stand out and stand tall.

Joan Halloway. The absolute baddest bitch to ever grace our tv screens. She oozed sex appeal and sass. Even in her conservative dresses she couldn't hide her dominating aura or those voluptuous "hillsides" as Roger would say. Joan covered up in bold business wear, richly colored and with minimal accessories. She wanted to seen as more than a "whole lot of woman" in this man's world. Joan was the backbone of the office, and she scratched her way to the top, with razor sharp claws that always matched her lipstick. In 2017 Joan could be seen in wiggle dresses and a-line pants, powerful silhouettes. She'd still be rocking those bold one-piece outfits, like an off-the-shoulder jumpsuit or a solid fuchsia dress with stylized sleeves. Joan always has, and always will, dress to stand out and stand tall.

Megan Calvet. Zou Bisou Bizoom on over to the mall, girl, because everything you love is back in style in 2017. Mad Men Megan's wardrobe was stuffed with all the top trends. She loved frills, florals, and just about anything with bell sleeves. In almost every store today we see influences from Megan's heyday. Bell bottom jeans are flooding back into stores. Sleek pantsuits are back for those, like Megan, who are brave enough to rock them. And that's right, bell sleeves are EVERYWHERE. Megan would fit right in the 2017 world of fashion, and she'd be so happy about she might just pick up a microphone. (But please don't.)

Megan Calvet. Zou Bisou Bizoom on over to the mall, girl, because everything you love is back in style in 2017. Mad Men Megan's wardrobe was stuffed with all the top trends. She loved frills, florals, and just about anything with bell sleeves. In almost every store today we see influences from Megan's heyday. Bell bottom jeans are flooding back into stores. Sleek pantsuits are back for those, like Megan, who are brave enough to rock them. And that's right, bell sleeves are EVERYWHERE. Megan would fit right in the 2017 world of fashion, and she'd be so happy about she might just pick up a microphone. (But please don't.)

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How To: Write a Love Note

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Let’s pretend that we’re waltzing through the ballroom of an Elizabethan manor—corsets cinched tightly across bosoms and hands clutching layers of sheer fabric. Or perhaps it’s 1916 and you’re daydreaming about your honey coming home from the front line—imagining the quickening of each breath as you hold each other. It could even be 1974, and you’ve just arrived at your Aunt Martha’s house for the whole summer, lamenting over how you won’t be seeing your sweetie for three entire months. What choice do you have but to pen word after word of careful and adoring prose for your darling?

While it may seem rather archaic in today’s technological world, the effort and intimacy that goes into a handwritten (or typed) love letter will not go unnoticed by your partner, and writing down your affections is a great way to reflect on how wonderful, sexy, and special that person is for you.      

Love notes don’t need to be Shakespearean sonnets, but they’re a nice way to come right out and say how you feel about your love. Whether you want to write a steamy description of everything you’d like to do when you get home from work tonight, a list of all the reasons you’re happy to be with someone, or a heartfelt note reminiscing about the joys you’ve experienced with your partner over the years, this guide will help you get started.

This guide is split up into three styles of notes to get you started, but most of the tips and tricks will be helpful regardless of what type of letter you’re trying to write.

Naughty and Oh So Nice

Oh baby, if you want to get him hot and bothered, details are key. Sexy love notes are a really fun way to get your partner turned on and thinking of you, and he can keep the naughty gift to read over and over.

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When you’re writing any type of personal letter, you want to try to have a conversational tone—there’s no need to be formal—so reading what you’ve written out loud is an easy way to see if it sounds like normal speech or not. Starting by telling why you wanted to write a letter is a good way to begin naturally, and you can transition into the descriptions from there.

i.e.  “Hey honeybun, I’m sitting at work and I can’t stop thinking about last night, so I wanted to write you a little note telling you about all my favorite parts…”

Once you get into the meat of the note, don’t be afraid to be specific about what exactly is so sexy about what your partner does, or what sexy things you want to do. Here are some example sentences:

I love the way your hands move so slowly/quickly/roughly down my inner thigh/hips/back…
I want to kiss from your jaw to your belly button and then…
Let me wrap my legs/arms around your hips/shoulders as you pull of my shirt/bra…

Something to remember is that as the author of this note, you are creating the voice behind it, and you can be as tasteful or as provocative as you’re comfortable with.

Sentence Starters:

  • I love how you…
  • Remember when I…
  • When you do (sexy thing), it makes me feel…
  • I want to/you to…
  • I like it when…

Check out the word banks below for ideas of different words you can use to mix things up:

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Hot Grammar Tip: Don’t forget that most adjectives can be changed into adverbs like softly, slowly, and roughly!

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Steamy Tip: While you’re perfectly welcome to use bold terms like penis, cock, dick, vagina, pussy, clit, etc, you can also allude to those areas without being as blatant. For example, instead of saying, I love when your dick is in my pussy, try, I love the way you feel inside me. Or rather than, I could feel your hard cock against me, you can say, I could feel how excited you were as my hand reached between your legs. This is not to say there’s anything wrong with the first sentences, but if you don’t ever speak that way, you may not feel comfortable writing that way either.

To finish up our tips for a smokin’ love note, here’s a brief example of a few lines:

…We climbed into the backseat of my car. I was wearing that silky yellow skirt with no panties, and Ain’t No Mountain High Enough was playing softly from the radio. I remember your lips tracing the length of my neck and the way our breathing seemed to match up. It was cramped so we decided to get out of the car, and you gently laid me down on my back across the hood. Your head was haloed by the light of the moon above you, and the car creaked beneath my shoulder blades…

Overall, just remember to have fun with it—your lover is going to enjoy whatever sexy little story you come up with!

Love Lists

Love lists are my favorite type of I love you to give to my partner, and I think they’re the easiest and most fun to write. Essentially, a love list is just a list of things/reasons/memories that you love about your dearest, but it’s not quite as simple as a numbered or bullet point list (though you can always make one of those too!). Think about Harry’s speech at the end of When Harry Met Sally, and that’s pretty much exactly it.

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I generally pick a theme for a love list, so here are some possible themes:

  • Cute things your darling does without realizing
  • Plans for lots of things you want to do together in the future
  • Things that your cutie may not like about themselves that you love
  • As many inside jokes as you can think of
  • Your favorite memories of times that were especially funny/romantic/etc

Sometimes a love list will be embedded in a different sort of love letter, like a general note where you’re telling your honey how much you love and miss them, and you insert a list of things you miss about them, but love lists make really pleasant stand-alone notes too.

Love lists can also make fun sexy notes if you want to list some of your favorite lovemaking moments, or favorite things you do when getting it on. In general, they’re very versatile!

On to the examples! My love lists usually follow a structured form where I repeat the same few words for the beginning of each sentence in the list. The following example shows how you can make a hypothetical love list about things that haven’t even happened yet:

…I can’t wait to keep learning and growing with you by my side. Let’s pick some really exciting grad schools together. Let’s save money for a trip in the next six months. Let’s keep loving each other (not hard at all). Let’s find new jobs and think about new cities to set our goals on. Let’s not forget about the creative outlets that we’re passionate about. Let’s make some huge pots of soup. Let’s go to a nice restaurant and get a little dressed up. Let’s watch some movies. Let’s go visit my parents. Let’s go to Chicago this autumn. Let’s make some art together. I love you so much. Let’s get a puppy…

Love lists can be about so many things—they can really focus on a bigger picture, or they can be very specific. They can encourage growth, or they can reminisce about times past. Here’s another example of a love list that focuses on very specific details:

…You’re simply the loveliest person I know, which makes it especially convenient that I get to spend the rest of my life with you. I love you at 3:30 in the morning when I’m sticky because I’m so hot in our sweaty apartment, and despite my attempts to inch away from your warmth, you follow me across the bed and say “hi” and make kissy noises. I love you when you try to force me to share food with you, but then you finish it anyway. I love you when you tickle me and I crumble to a heap on the floor as a means to escape.  I love you when you fall asleep for three hours in the afternoon and don’t text me back, and I know you’re fine, but I still worry anyway. I love you when you’re groggy after a nap and just want to hug. I love you when I wake up first and tell you that you should get up soon, but you’re naughty and still in bed when I get out of the shower. I love you when I forget to reply to a text and you ask how I’m doing because you got a little worried even though it’s only been twenty minutes. I love you in the morning when I have soft dreams of us making love and awaken to do just that—eyes closed as our mouths find each other for sleepy kisses. I love you when you tell me I’m soft...  

Love lists are the best when they’re very specific details. They can be serious, romantic, funny—anything. They’re guaranteed to make your belovèd feel extra special, and it’s always easy to think of things that you adore.

Regular Ole’ Love Letters

For a general love letter, you can really write about whatever you’d like. These can get extremely sentimental and mushy, but really, what’s the point of writing any declaration of love that isn’t sentimental and mushy?

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I generally encourage writing how you feel, and not being afraid to be too sappy or over-romantic—that’s the point! If you think about your lover all the time, write, I think about you all the time. Throw in those little specific details, but don’t fixate on making them perfect. I think if you’re going for a classic love letter, you should be as over-the-top as possible.Here’s an excerpt:

I want to be near you every hour of the day, though I’m especially fond of the early mornings when we’re barely awake and full of sleepy kisses, whispered sighs, and peaceful breathing.
There’s no one else like you and the fact that I managed to find you and that I get to keep you, well, I’m honestly the luckiest girl in the world. I hope you never tire of my cliché declarations of love, because I’m so stuffed with them that if I don’t express them periodically, I will actually burst with all the love I have for you, you incredible, wonderful, lovely boy. I feel like the more I tell you, the more I want to tell you! I love you, I love you!

Gushy? Check! Ridiculously emotional? Check! Heartfelt? Absolutely. However, you’ll notice that of the three types of love notes that we’ve covered in the guide, this one is the least specific to either the writer or the receiver of the note. If you’d like to incorporate all three styles into one letter, all the better!

And of course, if you’re looking for the entire package, spend some time writing a few love notes, and book a Mod Bettie session to really knock your lover’s socks (and the rest of their clothes) off.

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Calling All Ladies: November Events for Women

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It goes without saying that here at Mod Bettie, we celebrate and support women from all walks of life. We're always learning from, laughing with, and growing alongside one another, so here's our list of women-centric November events around West Michigan to check out. Let's fill every month with as much girl power as we can get!

Women's Only Weekend @ South Haven

9-12 November 2017

What could possibly be more fun than a roaring 20s themed weekend just for us gals? Don't miss out on this weekend in South Haven as the town is transformed into a flapper festival! Some of the events include: speakeasy night, dueling pianos, murder mystery, Charleston dance contest, costume contest, and more! The 20s were a profound time for women--the beginning of a long battle for better rights and equality--so why not celebrate some of our revolutionary roots in style! 

Ladies Night Out @ Mount Pleasant

11 November 2017, 4:00 pm - 11:00 pm

Spend Saturday evening in Mount Pleasant treating yourself to some awesome deals from local shops while also contributing to The Women's Initiative and Women's Aid Services--two charities that fight abuse and provide resources for local women. There are numerous participating businesses offering discounts on massages, yoga, tea and coffee, merchandise, dining, and more! Spend a little time on yourself, all while helping to make a difference in other women's lives. 

Princess Tea Party @ Henderson Castle Inn, Kalamazoo

12 November 2017, 1:00 pm - 3:00 pm

Though we may all have a princess inside us, this event is for the little ones! Your little princess and her friends will have the most perfect make-believe afternoon pretending to be princesses in the historic and extravagant Henderson Castle Inn. The afternoon will include photo opportunities with the princesses, storytelling, ballroom dancing, and a guided tour of the castle. Wait, are grown-ups allowed on this adventure?

Business MasterMind! @ Schuler Books & Music, Grand Rapids

14 November 2017, 9:00 am - 11:00 am

Hosted by Unstoppable Women GRthis event is the perfect networking brunch for all our girl bosses out there! This mastermind session is all about growing your business. Rivka Kawano (social media marketing specialist) is hosting the event, and she'll be taking everyone through introductions and discussion topics. What a great opportunity to meet other professionals in a casual setting, and get real work done for your business! 

Boxwood Wreath Class @ W. K. Kellogg Biological Station, Hickory Corners

16 November 2017, 6:00 pm - 8:00 pm

This event isn't specifically exclusive for women only, but it sounds like a peaceful crafting activity to get us in the holiday spirit! In this class, you'll be instructed by landscape expert, Sherri Snyder on the art of wreath-making with boxwood evergreen fronds. The wreath will last from Thanksgiving all the way through to Christmas. Just add a red bow and you're good to go!

A Drag Queen Christmas @ DeVos Performance Hall, Grand Rapids

19 November 2017, 8:00 pm - 10:00 pm

You won't want to miss out on this performance! This holiday extravaganza is starring Sasha Velour, Shea Coulee, Aja, Latrice Royale, Farrah Moan, Chi Chi DeVayne & Eureka O'Hara. It's an evening of songs and marvelous drag performance, and all ages are welcome. Plus, with the purchase of VIP tickets, you'll have the opportunity for a meet and greet with the queens, plus an official tour poster and other goodies. Don't skip The Naughty Tour this year!

Women Warriors: Portraits by Hung Liu @ Kalamazoo Institute of Arts

1 - 26 November 2017, 11:00 am - 5:00 pm

Until the end of the month, you can see this empowering exhibit at the Kalamazoo Institute of Arts. Woman Warriors: Portraits by Hung Liu, is a collection of twenty mixed-media, painted, and photographic works centered around female strength in the face of persecution. Liu’s work focuses on Chinese women throughout history--from concubines, to warriors, to survivors of the Cultural Revolution, like herself.

Let us know if we missed any!

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DIY: Pressed-Leaf Greeting Cards

Living in Michigan means we pay a lot of attention to our foliage—specifically around the time of year that we associate with pumpkins, sweaters, doughnuts, cider, spooky stories, and all that jazz. Yes, we’re talking autumn (or as those of us who like to make fun of people when they trip call it, fall).

The surest sign that fall is coming must be leaves! We’ve got our yellows, our oranges, our reds, browns, and even a few purples here and there. The smattering of colors we see across a stretch of woodland this time of year is genuinely breathtaking, and since I was a little girl, I’ve always been fond of collecting the most beautiful specimens for pressing, saving, and crafting with.

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When one has a large collection of pressed leaves, one must decide what to do with them. I love them most of all when I can showcase them, so I generally opt for framed collages, scrapbook pages, and—my personal favorite—greeting cards, which is what this blog is about.

Now when you begin a leaf-pressing project, don’t forget that the pressing process takes a week or so. Once pressed, the leaves pretty much stay in that form indefinitely (I have a shoebox full of pressed leaves and flowers that are probably around ten years old).

You’ll want to start with a thick, hardcover book. Growing up, I always used my mother's copies of The Complete Works of William Shakespeare and The Encyclopedia of Witchcraft and Demonology (fitting for October, don't you think?). I wouldn’t recommend using a book that’s incredibly special because shoving leaves between the pages can damage the book over time causing staining, wrinkly pages, and spine separation. I like to try to put at least an inch of space between each leaf as I fill a book in, and be sure the leaves don’t have any moisture from outside on them.

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The leaves you press should be freshly collected—once they start to dry out and wrinkle, they won’t fully flatten as easily. I usually give my leaves a week at minimum, but you can check on them after a few days and see how flat and crisp they’re looking. Once the leaves have been fully pressed, you’re ready to start crafting!

Greeting Card Supplies:

-       Cardstock

-       Patterned/Scrapbooking Paper

-       Liquid Multipurpose Glue

-       Scissors

-       Colored Pencils/Markers (optional) 

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Start with a long rectangle of cardstock and fold it in half to make the card base. Because the cardstock is much thicker than regular paper, I usually use an object, often the long part of a pen or the handle of my scissors, to smooth down the crease where the card is folded several times pushing down hard against the table.  

As for the size of the card, it’s really up to you. I usually just use whatever paper I have lying around, so my sizes always vary. My personal favorite for the base of the card is not actually cardstock, but watercolor paper—it offers nice texture to the card.

Once you have your card base, cut out rectangles of patterned paper to put on the front of the card—one or two layered offers a bit of depth. I usually eyeball the squares and cut them by hand—they don’t need to be perfect in my opinion.  Glue them on by smearing the entire back of each piece with glue and smoothing it onto the card base.

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Once you have your patterned paper on the card, just start playing! Try different leaf combinations and arrangements until you find what looks nice. Sometimes I’ll do a few of the same type of leaf together, sometimes I’ll go for different color combinations, and sometimes I’ll just do one leaf if I’ve really got a showstopper.

Cover the backs of the leaves with glue, and place them on one at a time. Once they’re in place, you can write a little greeting on the front if you like, or you can just wait and write on the inside.

To finish up, take your card, place a piece of paper towel over the top to catch any glue oozes, and stack a few books on top of the card to press it flat overnight. And voilà, you’ve got handmade, seasonal greeting cards!

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What’s your favorite fall-inspired craft?

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